ROCKPORT, MA - Mrs. Barbara J. (Murray) Grover, 81, of Rockport, passed away on Friday, January 26, 2018, after a brief illness. She was at home surrounded by her loving family. Barbara married the love of her life, Ronald E. "Bump" Grover Sr., with whom she shared 47 years of marriage. They remained inseparable until his death in 2004.
Barbara was born November 1, 1936, in Gloucester. She is the daughter of the late William C. and Evelyn M. (White) Murray. She was a graduate of Gloucester High School, class of 1954 (third-row lunch table club). Although Barbara was born and raised in Gloucester, she considered Pigeon Cove/Rockport her true home. She often joked that while she was "not an original Rockporter, she gave birth to one"
She worked as a secretary at LePages for a few years after her graduation, until she decided to do the most important job of being a mom and a home maker. After her children were grown she returned to the workforce in her chosen field, and was employed by John & Peggy Coonley. She enjoyed the view of her son pulling his traps from her office window (most of the time). She decided to retire so that she could spend some quality time with her husband, who was ill, and care for her grandchildrenshe loved to hold those babies!
Barbara was a warm, kind, and loving wife, mom, grandmother, and great-grandmother. She and Bump enjoyed attending all the kids' events and games. Nan made everyone feel special. It was well known if you went to Nan's on a Friday night, you were getting fried haddock or her famous fish chowda. She treasured the time she spent with her family. Christmastime was a very special time for the Grover's. The house at 5 Green Street was decorated like a star from heaven. It was not uncommon to see 200-plus people visit over the holiday season. Barbara enjoyed making her family her top priority. She was called Nan not only by her family, but by everyone who was blessed to have loved and known her. She and Bump took pleasure in riding around Cape Ann, and getting a bite to eat at the Cupboard. Barbara enjoyed sports, especially the Patriots and the Red Sox. Nan always put everyone before herself. She had a special knack for remembering numbers and never forgot a birthday, anniversary, and even a license plate. She often mentioned this trait had come from her dad. Barbara was only 25-years-old when she lost her dad, and that was one of the aches she had that never went away. After her father's passing, Barbara and Ronnie, without hesitation, welcomed Barbara's mom into their loving home. Barbara was truly a special soul and will be missed by all that loved and knew her.
She is survived by her son Ronald E. Grover, Jr., and his wife, Kimberly, of Rockport; her daughters, Carolyn M. Tarbox, and her companion, Daniel Frost, of Rockport, and Bonnie J. Maciel, and her husband, Kenneth, of West Gloucester. She is also survived by her beloved brother Dexter Murray, and his wife, Marion, of West Gloucester; her brother-in-law, William Grover, and wife, Marilyn, of Minnesota; her grandchildren, Shannon Grover, companion of Chris Johnson, Ronald Grover III, companion of Amanda Quince, Brianna Grover, Dana Tarbox, Jr., companion of Shay Tarbox, Nicole Tarbox, companion of Stephen Mione, Michael Tarbox, Jessica Frost, Branden Maciel, companion of Jessica Serrin, and Daniel Maciel. As well, she is survived by her 19 great-grandchildren, her son-in-law, Dana Tarbox, Sr., of Gloucester, special niece Mona Benvie, of Wenham; as well as many nieces and nephews and cousins.
In addition to her loving husband Ronald and her parents, Barbara is predeceased by her beloved three older brothers and sister-in-laws, Martin J. "Bud" Murray, and his wife, Doris, Ralph Murray, and his wife, Margaret, and William C. Murray, Jr., and his wife, Harriett. Barbara was also predeceased by her special cousin, Geneva Anderson; special niece, Lynn Grover; and several brother- and sister-in-laws. No loss was harder on Barbara than the loss of her granddaughter, Ashley Grover. A piece of her soul went to heaven on that day.
Barbara's visiting hours will be in the Pike-Newhall Funeral Home, 61 Middle Street, Gloucester, on Friday, February 2, 2018, from 4 to 7 p.m. Her funeral service will be on Saturday in the Pike-Newhall Funeral Home. The family will begin gathering on Saturday at 10 a.m. Barbara's funeral service will begin at 11 a.m. on Saturday morning. Relatives and friends are respectfully invited. Interment will be in Locust Grove Cemetery, Rockport. For online condolences, and register book, please visit www.pikenewhall.com.
Published on January 30, 2018