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PLANDOME, NY: Constance (Connie) Trapp MacCrate, 95, long time resident of Plandome, Long Island, N.Y., passed away on January 21, 2016. She was the beloved wife of Robert; sister to Harry, Virginia, and Jackie; mother to Christopher, Barbara and Thomas; mother-in-law to Kari, Chuck, and Claire; grandmother to Ryan, Kyle, Samantha, Matthew, Elisa, Kristia, Danielle, Caitlin, Juliet, and Isobel, and great-grandmother to Brandon, Charlotte, Maverick, Daemon, Wade, and Aurora. She was the guiding light of the MacCrate family.

Born in Laconia, N.H., in 1920 to Judge Harry Trapp and Florence McGloughlin Trapp, she lived her life as a true New Hampshirite, following the state motto: Live Free or Die. She taught by example humility, kindness, and resolve (some say stubbornness) to all who met her. Devoted to children and education, she volunteered for many years at Shelter Rock School, taught Sunday school at the Congregational Church of Manhasset, and never missed a game or recital or anything else her kid’s participated in, always offering her unfaltering support. She was a true constant in her family’s lives.

Connie matriculated from Mount Holyoke College in 1942, went on to work at Harvard Business School, and met her husband, Robert MacCrate, while he was attending Harvard Law School. They were married on May 4, 1946, in Laconia, N.H., and spent the next 69 years together, until her passing with Robert and her granddaughter Caitlin, who was her devoted caregiver for the last four years, at her side.

And finally, from Robert Burns:

But to see her was to love her;

Love but her, and love for ever.

Fare thee well, thou first and fairest!

Fare thee well, thou best and dearest!

Thine be like a joy and treasure,

Please, enjoyment, love and pleasure!

A fond kiss and then we sever!

A fare thee well, alas, for ever!

She was remembered privately by the family. Those who would like to share in her remembrance may send memorial gifts to The Legal Aid Society of New York, www.donate.legal-aid.org. Questions regarding these gifts may be directed to Connie’s granddaughter, Caitlin MacCrate, cjmaccrate@gmail.com, who is running the NYC Half Marathon to benefit the Legal Aid Society in her grandmother’s honor.
Published on  February 1, 2016
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